Standard is it?
By Ankita Shrivastav, an engineer turned photographer based out of Bhopal
We are living in a world which is normalized with the idea of setting standards and labels. We always claim that we are a modern generation. But are we? It is 2020 and we still think that having a boy is good and the girl isn’t. Our lives revolve around a pre-defined, un-said but still-there-set of rules. First education with highest marks, then a job with the best salary, then get married to the most handsome and beautiful, then have kids. This is a basic way of living routine created by our society. Should we not be questioning these set standards?
Scope for self-introspection as a society
Do we accept people with all their differences? Are we ready to face the changes that are being brought about? Does our soceity allow an individual to thrive in his/her individuality? NO … we as a society have failed to accept and acknowledge the differences and peculiarities of an individual. Society is a union of all these individuals, we fail these individuals by disrespecting their choices and their being. The change can never be brought out in a day. We have to be progressive and accepting to do this all together. We can bring about change provided we are ready to accept it.
Lable or should we?
This was about our lives as a society. Now let’s come a bit closer … to a personal level, an individual. We’ve not just set some standard rules on how to live life but also have defined how our personalities should be. Dark skin is a big no. We judge people on their hair type, their dressing style, their body type, tattoos, scars, piercing and what not? Our opinion for a boy is different if he has shaved his hands and legs and pass a different judgment to a girl if she has not. This judgment comes every time if someone is seen out of norms. Why? Who are we to put labels on people? Who has set these standards? Shouldn’t these norms of beauty be questioned … should it not have been done much earlier?
It’s time to change our minds. The beauty should be the heart of a person, their mind, their soul. Do I care about how someone feels? How they smile? Is there anything that makes one special, different than others? What is someone’s hobby? Are there any traits of a gentleman or woman? How do they think? Inner beauty is underrated in our society. It shouldn’t be just standard outer beauty. Why we put labels on people that they are flawed. In fact, who defined what flaw is and what isn’t?
Find beauty in the basics
God has created this world in a beautiful way. He has made everyone unique because of a reason. Then why do we put labels on them and then judge them? To make our life better and to rise above these norms we should all concentrate on the betterment of our own personality to bring the best in us. Once we enhance our inner beauty, the world, the people, the society will automatically become flawless and these standards will no longer matter and everyone who suffers silently will become mentally and emotionally free and this world will become a better place for everyone to live.